Not letting go of a former love may help us hold on to our loving selves. October 2, 2019 by The Minds Journal Leave a Comment Sounds like you really do just need to get it off your chest and out of your heart. It’s even harder when you already planned your future together. I broke up with him because even tho our schools were close it was going to be strenuous. Lately I've been critical on myself for fucking a lot of things up. I am happy in my current relationship but I still deeply miss my ex who treated me like shit You see nothing but them ahead. I always wanted kids but knew having them with my ex was a bad idea cuz of what they would go threw with my ex's mental problems (thank God I never did have any with her either). Everyone wants to be. FORTUNATELY things with my new gf/baby mom have been great. Haven’t I move on from them? Although we will never be togather and I prolly will never see her again the rest of my life, I wish I could just see her in person and hug her tight in my arms again. That sure makes it easier to grasp why I feel the way I do about her. Things with us were very toxic but we did have a truly special relationship too when she wasn't having episodes. I traveled..changed work..bought my first home...etc. Why Doesn’t My Ex-Girlfriend Seem to Care about The Way I Feel After She Broke Up with Me? No, no, no. When you miss your ex, doesn’t mean you still love them nor your conscience said so. Despite thinking you're the only one who's been hurt, your ex is probably hurting too. You thought you were just fine all along, only to feel that you miss them out of the blue. Now, you should no longer ask why do I miss my ex after 9 months. You feel okay these past 9 months because your life is also okay. And once you do, it’s addictive. 0 conact with ex for 9 months now. This month marks two years since my ex and I have broken up, and it has taken me the entirety of those two years to realize I still love him. There is absolutely no way of him knowing that he’s being tracked, so there’s nothing to lose. I've done so many things in these 9 months without him. (9 Awesome Hints), 11 Signs That He Is Going To Leave His Wife For You, How To Know When Your Aries Man Misses You (9 Obvious Ways), How to Know if Your Ex Misses You During No Contact, How to Feel Less Lonely When You're Single, How to Know If Your Ex is Just Stringing You Along, 99 Ways to Love Yourself and Be Happy with The World, Ways To Make Your Ex Miss You After Breakup And Regret It. Why I still miss my Ex Narcissist. Break up can be very hard. But normal life doesn’t suit you. The truth is: when you still miss your ex after this long, it rarely means you still love them. I see him now and then. My ex (27F) and I (29M) were togather 7 years. Welcome! I think about her everyday and although in a way I feel like I've moved on from her in a sense that I am very open to new love, I feel that I'm definitely not over her at all. Then she totally ignored me and we had 0 contact for a month. Find our own through the things that you love to do. He said it is over. That my friend had to be the best way to put things. one month as he still had feelings for his previous ex. So it's been 9 months since we broke up and I find myself still thinking of him on a daily basis. Why Do I Miss My Ex After 9 Months? You miss the sex. I am almost 26. Don’t expect your ex to come out of his or her hiding any time soon if you begged too much. Explain to your ex that you need some time to yourself, and avoid seeing him or her as well as you can. No secret gimmick. Why Can’t I Get Over My Ex? You are loved by many, maybe you haven’t been able to see it. Thank you. Your ex might not understand all of that. You don’t need to get back to them to have it. I still think about him and pray he is safe. -That my ex is just a person, and his evaluation of me does not determine my worth, nor does it represent the way every guy will feel about me from this point forward You're not gonna like this, but it's really just time. Every now and then she comes back into my mind for some reason but some days are worse then others. Many men begin to miss their partners terribly when they are left alone. She could not drive due to her issues, couldn't hold down a job, had horrible credit, was a pig who didn't clean up after herself and quiet a few other issues. Work on your life for your own future and keep focus. Maybe you haven’t dated in a while or maybe you have but the dates you’ve gone on have been total duds. Our breakup was actually fairly mutual last year. Not when you still haven’t move on. its been a rough last few months, and i still feel sad... how long does it take? When my first boyfriend and I broke up, I met my second boyfriend 4 months later. The passion and spirit were different than the old you who dated your ex. Four months ago I was in a ten month relationship with my ex, we got on very well and had great times He made me feel happy, alive and realise what true love was. Also read: How to Know If Your Ex is Just Stringing You Along. There are things that we shared togather that were truly special and I know there is no way any woman in my life will ever be able to match the special bond that we had. Now that you’re no longer together, you might feel your life heading to nowhere. Was with a good friend who knew the situation and was okay with it. Baby is already here, healthy and they both live with me. You need a distraction but you have nothing. He always brought up being more serious but would get cold feet a few weeks later, and the last time this happened I said I want to be in a more stable relationship. I am so tired of thinking about her, and so tired of missing her. Also read: How to Feel Less Lonely When You're Single. Last but not the least and not to be underestimated. We were together for 14 months after being friends in high school then she ended things with me and things became pretty bitter between us and four months on and I still miss her like crazy. 47 Ways To Make A Scorpio Man Fall In Love With You, 221 Sweet And Cute Things To Say To Your Boyfriend When He Got Mad At You, What To Say To Your Boyfriend On Your 5 Month Anniversary, 31 Ways To Make A Cancer Man Fall In Love, 33 Signs That Your Best Friend Hates You Secretly, 17 Things A Libra Man Looks For In A Woman, What Do Scorpios Find Physically Attractive? It's likely that your ex misses you as you miss them, but just because you miss someone, it doesn't mean you should get back together. We seek posts from users who have specific and personal relationship quandaries that other redditors can help them try to solve. 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